The Dating Principle - It's All About Packaging

Image + Confidence + Attraction = SEX APPEAL = MORE DATES!

The way we dress and present ourselves may not make the man or woman, but there is no denying that it has a big influence on how people regard us and judge our SEX APPEAL. Life is not fair in the dating world. Even if most of us are born with a sense of what we should wear and say, a lifetime of exposure to fashion advertising, past relationships and advice from friends and family leaves many of us confused.

IMAGE that counts - Preparation

The random changes in pushed by today's society can make the whole dating process even more bewildering. That confusion costs money - a lot of it. Actually canvassing, preparing and dating costs money. When not done right, it can run into hundreds if not thousands of dollars with no end in sight. Dressing inappropriately or body language can give off negative or inaccurate impressions and can cost a person a good chance at securing a second date and more.

Yes, it is all about presentation. A sloppy appearance even to a social outing with friends can prevent prospective introductions to the opposite sex even if you have a great sense of humour and personality plus. In most social outings, the first impressions regrettably are that appearances are more important than talent, character or personality. However if you want to make that all important positive first impression and attracting the right people to you then a little bit of self investment can work wonders.

Remember life is not fair in the dating world, and if you're not treating yourself well then your chances maybe lost to others who present a positive image of themselves. While you may not see it as a priority, your competition is out there buying new outfits every week, looking their best and attracting gorgeous people. First impressions are difficult to change. Presenting a negative impression to others can adversely affect your chances of finding your ideal partner. They may draw the wrong conclusion about your presentation because of a dowdy appearance. In some ways this could affect a person's credibility, such is this cruel world. So be a master of self-expressive-love, and treat yourself well.

For CONFIDENCE - Self Esteem

Your image of what you portray both inside and out will reflect on your confidence and thus self esteem. Image and self esteem are closely aligned. Little do we know that image, your external package always must start from the inside. What am I talking about? Getting to know yourself better, believe in yourself and be comfortable with who you are and what strengths you have to give to a relationship. What flourishes within often shines on the outside. People eyeing you up will notice this.

Confidence is an individual thing. The dating world can be fickle. Confidence is about being comfortable in your true self and accepting all the unique qualities you have. Confidence in what you truly desire in a partner looks easy but in essence it's tricky.

Being confident in who you are, background, your history, forgiving yourself for past mistakes can enable you to accept yourself and what you truly desire in a potential partner.

Knowing this can allow you to gather quick information on prospects, instead of going from date to date and not really knowing whom your dating or why you're doing so.

With this new found confidence in yourself and what you want, you will be able to;

* Identify enough positive traits to encourage you spending more time getting to know them in a dating situation so you can determine their potential for a successful long-term relationship.

* Differentiate a potential "friend" from a potential "mate." (A potential friend or a casual acquaintance will lack the qualities necessary for deep and lasting romance.)

* Spot serious flaws, warning signs, and conditions in others that justify that this relationship will not go no further.

For ATTRACTION - to lure your potential partners

Dressing for an occasion is correctly only half the battle. There is a saying that goes like this; "clothes make the man or woman." But we can extend on this and add to it by saying "clothes make the man or woman, but manners makes a gentlemen or lady!" Impressions are not based on clothing alone; a person's body language, speech habits, manners and demeanour complete the external packaging which others see. If a person dresses superbly but mumbles or fiddles incessantly during a date while looking at the ground is no better than that of a person wearing a tracksuit to a formal dinner.

We humans are unique in what subconsciously attracts you to another and others to you, yet we are predominantly attracted to confident positive people. Generally these desirable quality traits are;

* Good Communication Skills - personality and character * Dress sense and self respect - treating yourself well * Lifestyle and Interests * Physical Chemistry * Geography * Parental Influences * Educational Influences * Past Relationship History and Closure History

There are times in our lives where we can lose one, two or all of these dating principles. People, society, culture, trends, environment and ourselves can take these away. Ultimately though these are passing phases. We grow, adapt, mature and learn. If we can do one thing for ourselves in the dating game, then that is to learn about our own dating principles in an honest way and then go about doing something to improve them. Feel good about yourself and someone will feel good about you.

Remember; it's all about Packaging